As evidenced by my blog, I have been obsessively trying to research necessary baby items for my registries. It has been pretty awesome, actually, and I've thoroughly enjoyed the correspondence with the moms out there. However, tonight it finally hit me how much is needed and then the "Who's going to buy it all?" Well, we're the ones that decided to have a kid, so we should probably be the ones to throw down the cash for it all. But then what are showers for? A shower would be awesome for this, and I hear a lot of folks do it. Hell, I attend them and buy gifts for others, sometimes for folks I don't even know that well. I'm set to have one - a coshower with a friend who is due in late Nov. (two months after me). It's just the shower date is unknown, which I don't want to push since it's a gift and all. I'm scared, though, that it won't be until right before I'm due. Beggars can't be choosers, but I am freaking out that things won't be set up with enough time to breathe...especially if she comes early, and we're not ready. I'm also freaking out that no one's going to get us anything (anything that we need that is - people are definitely getting stuff that they like), and that at the last minute we're gonna be shelling out tons of cash. Isn't that ass-holish of me? To assume that others will help? And really, I guess the bottom line is this: I just need to know what we're gonna have by way of help and what we're not so I can ration out our money for the next few months and make sure we get all we need. Maybe less ass-holish with that? Eh. I've already cried tonight over this shit. Hell, I'm me, and I'm pregnant with my first kid. I'm supposed to be psycho.
With that...ALLLLL that, I'm not going to work on any baby stuff tonight, and instead may actually go to bed early. Getting used to Joe's schedule again is both difficult and infuriating. I swear his time in the Army is taking years off his life. He gets up at 0430 to leave by around 0515. Today he left work at around 1630, but never had time to workout during the day, as he's enrolled in some Microsoft class. Que? So, he hit the gym on the way home and got home a little after six. To get eight hours of sleep, he would have had to go to bed a little more than two hours after he got home. That didn't happen, but hopefully he'll get a solid six hours and be alright.
Okay, enough bitching. Enough, enough, enough. For some reason Joe has Friday off, so that's something to look forward to. Yay.
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5 comments:
I don't think it's asshole-ish of you to wonder. People have baby showers and get stuff. It's just what we do. I would be freaking out about what I need to get too. I think the research you are doing it cute! Be prepared to be bombarded with questions by yours truly when I have a bambino on the way;)
I was in the exact same position. I worried myself sick about how we'd get it all together in time, or at all. The worry was a waste of time. It all worked out and it will for you too.
To be honest Katie, these guys don't need a whole lot in the first months. They need YOU, food, diapers, wipes, a place to sleep and tons of love. If you just had the basics and got the rest as you went, you'd be totally fine. Don't stress, you'll get it all together :)
Things will absolutely come together, I promise!
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I asked my new-dad coworker yesterday, in fact, if babies really NEED all the stuff marketed at new parents before they're born. He and his wife didn't do a registry or have a baby shower (i think she was embarrassed about what you're worrying about — needing people to help them). But, at the office, we threw new-dad coworker a surprise shower with some gift cards and cake. Anyway, he said that everything they got before their son was born has been useful and has been used. Anything else, they figure they'll pick up along the way as they feel they need it (they just bought a swing because little Jack wasn't sleeping). I think they had a good approach at the start about having essentials and going from there — but I'm sure a shower would have been fun for the two of them :). You'll be fine, babe. With the planner that you are, your kiddo will have a better start than most. And Aimee's right...she'll probably need very little at the start. Just you and Joe, a place to poop and food. If you haven't seen the movie "Babies", do it. It'll make you feel better. LOVE YOU!
Honestly, I love that you've registered for all kinds of stuff, because I want to buy baby stuff and I don't have a baby to buy for. Also, I want to buy stuff for a little girl since the only little girl in our family is my niece and don't tell anyone, but she's kind of a brat and I don't like buying her stuff. :) kidding.
And yeah you won't really need all of this stuff at first and you can get it along the way, but showers are just so much fun when they're for you. And don't think about it as asking people for stuff. I don't think I've ever gone to a shower and thought "Oh, she can't afford this so I'll buy it." People just get exciting about buying baby stuff.
I think it's a great idea to register for things you want/need. I love buying baby gifts for new parents & I find it super rude when people dont stick to things on the registry. I mean why would you risk buying something that you like when the parents have already listed the things they want? Totally lame.
And I totally get where you're coming from on not wanting to pressure them into setting a date for the babyshower but yeah, one needs to be set. Maybe you should offer up a date next time you get together with who ever is planning it, it can't hurt any.
Also, you should totally link us to your baby registry, you know so we can send you gifts & all...sorta like a bloggy baby shower haha. (I promise *most* of us aren't stalkers lol)
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